My daughter’s love affair with books and stories began when she was around 8 months old, I guess when my wife gave her one of her sister’s old books which she had won as a kid in school. This ‘almost 20 yr old’ book, Rapunzel, which had been won as a consolation prize at her school ended up being little R’s inseparable companion for quite a few days continuously.
While I am sure she didn’t understand anything about the story, the fact remains that the way in which her Amma told the story, or the way in which I used to enact the story out to her kept her engrossed with it. It became a bedtime ritual, it accompanied most of her meals, and thus began her love affair with the ‘written word’. I say ‘written word’ in quotes as I am sure it is her obsession with stories more than the words themselves which make her such an avid reader at this age.
My wife and me have always been reasonably avid readers and with the exception of really crazy busy times at office and work pressures, we have both managed to keep up with this habit reasonably well. The long commutes to and from office when I was in Chennai managed to re-‘kindle’ the reading habit in me, more so with my newly acquired Kindle (hence the quotes). And the post delivery break meant that my wife also renewed her love for books. While our tastes in books have slowly started to diverge, the fact remains that both of us do spend some time with our reading, and this is something that little R had probably noticed right from the beginning.
And as the saying goes “Parents are the first teachers of the child” and as if parents were not enough, little R’s grandfather also is an avid reader, although that habit took the backseat for quite a while when we moved down to Bangalore and he didn’t have enough time to spare for books after playing throughout the day with his granddaughter. In any case, she has seen both her grandparents also spending time with their newspapers and books, and I am sure this also made quite an impression on her.
Starting with Rapunzel, moving on to books with alphabets, numbers, colors, vehicles, animals, vegetables, birds, reptiles, insects, you name it and she has devoured all of them with equal gusto. At one point of time, the wife and I were so exhausted with all the book shopping that we just gave up and accepted defeat. And all this when the little one is barely 26 months old now. That being said, both of us are thrilled at her love for books, and sincerely hope she continues to love the written word for the rest of her life for more reasons than one.
Another aspect which probably encouraged her book reading habit was the fact that the television was all but dead at home during the first year of little R. While we had a nice big screen LCD TV with a nice DTH connection, the fact that I wasn’t at home from around 6.30 in the morning till around 7.30 at night, and pretty much asleep at all other times meant that the TV was switched off for most of the day except for around 30 odd minutes. And this I am sure went a long way in not building a TV addiction for little R. Even today, when we hear other parents talk about how their kids eat only when they see Doraemon or some other cartoon on TV, my wife and I look at each other and steal thankful smiles that we are not in the same predicament.
What is even more surprising is the fact that little R, up to a few months ago, was not even interested in toys as well. While she would play with her toys for a maximum of 30 odd mins at a stretch, she would happily sit with her books, staring at them, talking to them, talking about them for longer periods of time. Till date, she doesn’t have her one favorite toy or stuffed doll that she needs to take with her wherever she goes, but she does need to have at least 4 of her books whenever she travels. Now, if that isn’t the true sign of a book lover, what is.
On more than one occasion I have thanked God that we had almost stopped watching movies (another activity which we so love doing together) by the time little R was born, else she would have turned out to be a movie fanatic by now. Now, that is not a bad thing in itself, but it’s just that too much of the audio-visual experience at this age, that too of the movie variety would surely have ended up in some unnecessary complications, wouldn’t it.
I would love to hear what your kids are/were obsessed with when they were around 2 yrs old. Did they love their stuffed toys, cartoons, books, or nursery rhymes, more? Please do let me know by sharing your stories in the comments section.
PS: The little girl in the picture is NOT my daughter 😀 although I am sure that I could take a similar pic of hers in a few years’ time.
17 thoughts on “My daughter is a bookie”
I can relate your story to our life as well. We were a couple who loved late nights and movies. But, being a parent changes everything. Got more grounded and have been able to pass on the gift of reading to our little one!
Well, kids do change our lives in many ways, don’t they? 😀
It is mainly the parents who create habits, both good and not-so-good, in little kids.
The reading habit, or lack of it, is generally created by example.
Habits like “eat only when they see Doraemon or some other cartoon” are also created by parents and grandparents. To start with, the parents and grandparents think it’s cute and keep boasting about it. The child obviously thinks (s)he’s doing the correct thing and keeps doing it. After a while, the parents realise that the habit is not cute at all. By then, it’s pretty difficult, if not impossible to break the habit.
@Proactive Indian, so true, most parents start off distracting their kids with multiple things when they have to feed them or put them to sleep without realizing it that they are in fact cultivating habits in the kids themselves.
My son was not much into reading till date but he has suddenly developed an appetite for it which means I can have some peace time 🙂
And though we restrict TV time, he loves to watch it. I suppose it is just a passing phase.
@Bhagyashree, good for you that he has developed an appetite for reading books, this is one good and useful habit which helps kids in more ways than one 😀
Great that your daughter started with the books at so early age. As far as I can recall it was always Comics for me.;) Love affair with books had to wait for next 8-10yr. 😛
@Praveen, when I say books, I am referring to the ones with illustrations and comics only, not real books, my daughter is only two years old 😉
Lols…:P great stuff to start with. 😉
It is the parents who help develop a habit in the kids. In fact they learn from their parents involuntarily as well. Nice that your daughter loves books 🙂
@Kajal, am just hoping that this love of hers continues for life, that’s all 🙂
This is a total Kala Tikka post. R isnt a reader but she definitely loves going through her books. Her bed time is definitely 5 books read on a negotiable basis. She starts with 10 and we negotiate to 5 🙂 But she also watches TV though only for a couple of hours on weekends. And yes, she does like Doremon 🙂
@R’s mom, wow, 10 books, she sounds quite a bit like my daughter, but no Doraemon for my daughter, that’s the only difference 😀
Oh…Lovely to know you little one loves books ! I have a little tyrant at home and I wish I could say this about her 🙂 So I have started with the habit of reading books for her now…. given that she has a bookie amm and not-at-all-a-bookie appa, I’m just waiting to see which path she takes 😀
Touch wood, for your kunjupappa 🙂
@Sreeja, trust me, if you make her develop a love for books that will be one love affair which will last for life and one you won’t regret one bit also 😉
Wow! Your daughter loves books…This is simply awesome. Parents play the main role in inculcating good manners/good values in a child and it is true that a child learns a lot by observing. I also believe that one can mold a child any which way you want. If you make a habit of eating without TV, the kids will eat that way. But if you make them eat food in front of Doremon and then later crib, it is not going to work!
@Shilpa, she absolutely adores books, no questions about that at all 😀 And yes, I guess at this age, most of what they like and don’t like is inculcated in them by their parents and other elders around them.